I am a big fan of Iyanla Vanzant’s work which has stirred things up quite a bit for me. I have grown so much from reading her books and doing the work she invites us in.
At the moment I am working through her book “In The Meantime” and I have been doing deep inner work with it.
There’s a section in the book which she refers to as the “Loving Behaviour Reference” that I would like to share here with you. At a first glance it may seem just another list but if you take the time to sit with it, you may come to realise that this is QUITE a CHALLENGING list.
For me, I see it and I feel it as being more of a Loving Soulful Code Of Conduct.
Here it is, quoting her:
♥ Ask for exactly what you want.
♥ Tell the absolute truth about what you want.
♥ Clearly let others involved know your expectations of them.
♥ Ask for clarity about what is expected of you.
♥ Tell the absolute truth about your ability to live up to the expectations of others.
♥ Renegotiate any agreements you have made if you find that you’re unable to keep the agreement.
♥ Honor what you feel, first to yourself, then to others around you.
♥ Remain open to hearing what others want and expect without feeling you have to do anything about it.
♥ Never dishonor or deny yourself or what you feel simply to please someone else.
♥ Be willing to surrender (give up) what you want or expect when surrendering it serves a greater purpose, such as healing or generating more love.
♥ Be willing to forgive people for the things they do or fail to do in fear or anger.
♥ Be willing to forgive yourself for the things you do in fear or in anger.
♥ Bless every experience and ask that Divine will and understanding be granted to you and others.
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