It’s Autumn but it really doesn’t feel like it! The weather is really hot, the sun is really shining bright and it feels like a summer day! So, what better thing to do on a summer-not-so-autumn day than to head the seaside?!
It was exactly what I did yesterday and headed the beach with my 10-year-old.
Arriving there, as I was enjoying the view of the sea, losing myself in the space before me and soaking in the smell of the salty water, all of a sudden I notice this fence right in front of me. I hadn’t seen it before! I had not realised it was there! What could have drawn my attention to it? It was the fact that I worried of him falling! So, when fear kicked in I looked for safety, for security! And there’s nothing wrong with that (as a matter of fact, there’s nothing wrong with anything!).
But there was something about this fence… it looked so fragile… it really made me wonder!
How many times do we feel like we are on the edge of something extraordinarily different and exciting and fear makes us look for security and distracts our focus from what is really exciting and adventurous? You know, in the past I would have given into the fear and completely forget about the wonderful view of the sea and the sky meeting each other! (I know I still miss a lot of the adventure and beauty in the world because many times I still let myself be kept prisoner of fear, but not yesterday.)
And becoming aware of this, I wondered how many times do we feel something is about to shift in our life and we can even feel the excitement mixing up with fear and we HOLD ON to fences that are so freaking unstable?
How many times do we dare so little, holding on to fences which are so week that wouldn't be able to hold you if you were to lean onto them? How many times do we hold on to fences that really don't serve us anymore? Fences we keep fixing… we keep mending… out of fear!
You know, there comes a day that the fence that once kept us safe, will now keep us trapped inside! It may give us the illusion that being behind the fence is much better, but that’s just it – an illusion!
I remember the day I received my last pay check from school with ZERO euros on it! I had quit my job as a teacher after 23 years. There was not much of a plan except to keep moving and showing up for what I am really passionate about! That day I was freaking out! My mind kept shouting at me “What the fuck are you doing with your life?” and for 12 hours in a row I played the same song over and over again (UNSTOPPABLE by Sia)… I listened to and I sang for hours and hours straight! My hands were sweating… my heart was beating too fast … OMG… I was really freaking out, but I was not going back!!!! That day I made sure I surrounded myself with an empowering group of friends (those kinds of friends that Tony Robbins creates 😉) and I remember one in particular who said “Awesome! Now you can shoot for the stars! The sky is the limit!”
That was it!!!! There was no more fence! No more hiding! No more playing small! I had removed the fence and now there were no more limits!! No more mending or fixing the fence, finding excuses to it, postponing decisions, blaming others and complaining about it… I had jumped and now all I had to do was to keep on flying and soar!
So, I wonder…
Is there a fence you are holding on to that doesn’t serve you anymore? Is there a fence you keep on mending and fixing?
So, I wonder…
What would it look like if you jumped? How exciting would your life be if you took the leap and started to fly? What would be possible for you without the fence? How exciting would your life be if you remembered that you are actually a free being capable of achieving every dream you dream?
Share your fences in the comments! I would love to read about them!