Tony Robbins

Hustling vs Staying in Flow



As I stood there sitting on the floor waiting for a performance which was about to start, I found myself absorbing how imponent and magnificent that castle was and imagined the events that must have taken place there, in the Medieval Age, with kings, queens and knights.

And then… I found myself wondering how many times in life we feel like we are in a battle. How often do we feel there's a castle to take over, to conquer and overcome challenges so we can get to the very top of the tower?

 

The true battle is really happening inside and it is a one-man-fight – ONESELF! Or, better said, what we think to be ourselves.

The ego (on a side note, let me just say that initially the word ego was all caps and when I noticed how much it was standing out, I thought I would bring it down to its place… wrote it with capital “e” and as I was about to take it down too, the ego was freaking out… LOL the struggle is real, people!!!), which creates an illusory separation, always gives us the idea that we have to get somewhere, to do some other thing, making us feel incomplete and with the illusion that something is missing…and that’s how we fall into the next-thing trap. At least I know I do!

 

The ego, in its quest to survive will make you believe that there’s always more and more and more… it will never ever be enough… YOU will never be enough!

I don’t know about you, but I am finding that sh*t really exhausting and more and more I am daring to experiment with some different approaches.

 

As I adventure into these new possibilities, I am aware of the battle happening within, as if I were two people. It’s quite a show to watch!!!!

Sounding just like Sofia Vergara playing Gloria in Modern Family, the ego loves a drama: “what??!! you’re not worried?”; “how come you’re not anxious?”; “what do you mean you’ll buy that ticket to Tony Robbins?”; “You can’t spend all that money?” … blah blah blah

It’s a one-man-show! A sitcom with a signed contract for life and unlimited seasons. The Simpsons, you’re screwed!

 

You should see the shock and the surprise every time I challenge, not only the ego but also myself to later find out that my body is less and less responding like it used to when standing before the “illusion” of a problem.

My mind tells me to worry and freak out but deep down I don’t feel as such! There’s hope! 😉

 

Back to the castle, the battles and the conquering. It’s crazy how we can get attached to the drama and the hardship. Don’t you think so?

 

Don't get me wrong! There's nothing wrong with wanting more, in conquering castles, climbing the highest mountains… I am a hell yeah for that! But life can be as interesting, if not more challenging, down here too. If there's great courage in taking the leap, in going to battle, it also takes as much courage daring to stay, sit, acknowledge whatever is… do nothing & change nothing.

 

Actually, I have tried them both and here’s what I can share with you: hustling, getting myself ready to work, to go somewhere, to do something challenging, is revealing itself way easier than honouring the presence of now, sitting still, creating space for the clarity needed to take action, surrendering into the stillness of the unknown.

Can you be ok with not knowing and honour it? Amen to meditation!

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Facing Fear

I faced FEAR today!

Holy shit... My legs shook like hell... I felt my heart biting in every inch of my body... It was not death but it sure felt like it!

- B*itch, STOP this car R.I.G.H.T N.O.W! - Fear yelled.

In that moment I felt trapped. It felt way too dangerous and way too scary to keep driving up the mountain. The road was too narrow and so damn steep!!!! I could see the road disappearing under the car as I curved… OMG!!! It seemed the car was flying… all I could see was the car and the sky!

F*ck!!! My car has no wings and neither do I!

At that point, the only way to feeling great and safe again (OMG, I wanted it so badly!) was to go all the way up! Literally, there was no turning back! Suddenly, the fear of keep moving forward became smaller than turning the car around and so I kept going.

When I finally stopped the car, it felt like a huge relief! My legs were shaking and I could barely walk! I took some deep breaths in and out and walked all the way up to the top. And you know what? Fear wouldn’t shut up:

- Are you happy now? I hope this shit was worth it! What do you expect to find here? There are only big rocks here! And you’re also afraid of rocks, remember?

As I watched my son exploring the surroundings, I fooled myself into the illusion that I was enjoying myself hiding behind the camera and taking some pictures of him. Fear wasn’t going anywhere and it wasn’t giving up either, as it shouted:

- How the hell are you going to drive your way down? I can’t believe you brought us here!

Fear was hysterical and for me to be able to live that experience fully, I had to take a moment to acknowledge its presence, breathe and let it know that everything was going to be ok (at this point I am fooling myself… what else can I do? Fake it until you make it!).

Yes, it seemed dangerous! Yes, it looked and felt scary... But I would drive very slowly and carefully on the way down! If others can do it, I can also do it myself!

Now, there was nothing Fear could do but I… I could choose: I could freak out or I could enjoy the wonderful experience of being there, at the mountain top! I mean, being truly and actually there and NOT pretending that I was there!

And so I made a decision - I decided I wanted to BE FULLY PRESENT!

Fear stood there, aside, arms crossed, grumbling and waiting for the moment to go down:

- This b*tch, since she met that Tony Robbins guy and walked on that fire, she doesn't listen to me like she used to... and with all that meditation and self-development bullsh*t she is into, she thinks she can dare and defy me... Well... I gotta say that we’ve been to some quite amazing places and met some extraordinary people but …

(bla bla bla)

SILENCE entered my body! I don’t recall ever experiencing that kind of silence! The immense space before my eyes, all the mountains around, the different autumn colours blending together and kissing the blue of the sky, two birds flying around and playing together in a dance only they understood…

The silence and I became one! And in that moment, I was FREE!

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On the way down... OMG... Fear was freaking out again and making a scene!

As I write this and share this story with you, I found it very curious to witness my reaction to feeling trapped and scared - I wanted it to STOP! I wanted to quit! I froze and I wanted someone to come and save me. I wanted to throw the towel and have someone come and pick the car and get it out of there.



I guess this is exactly what Tony Robbins means when he says that if you want to take the island, you gotta burn the damn boats. Having escaping doors will make you use them when standing before Fear.

I wonder how many times we all go through moments like this where we feel fearful, scared and we want to give up, run away or have someone to come and save us?!



So, if I could share something powerful and transformational with you, here are TWO things I would say:

1) What is your biggest fear in life? What are you most afraid of in your life?

STOP reading now and take a moment to write down what comes up for you when you ask yourself this question. (I hope you have PAUSED!)

2) What could be a fear bigger than that fear? What could it be that you could fear even more than the thing you fear the most?

What if the only way to going down and feeling great again is going all the way up?

At the top of the moutain…

At the top of the moutain…

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Set Yourself Free

It’s Autumn but it really doesn’t feel like it! The weather is really hot, the sun is really shining bright and it feels like a summer day! So, what better thing to do on a summer-not-so-autumn day than to head the seaside?!
 

It was exactly what I did yesterday and headed the beach with my 10-year-old.
Arriving there, as I was enjoying the view of the sea, losing myself in the space before me and soaking in the smell of the salty water, all of a sudden I notice this fence right in front of me.

I hadn’t seen it before! I had not realised it was there! What could have drawn my attention to it? It was the fact that I worried of him falling! So, when fear kicked in I looked for safety, for security! And there’s nothing wrong with that (as a matter of fact, there’s nothing wrong with anything!).

The actual fence!

The actual fence!

But there was something about this fence! It was being put together by rope wrapped around it … it looked so fragile…

And I wondered… How many times do we feel like we are on the edge of something extraordinarily different and exciting, and fear makes us look for security and distracts our focus from what is really exciting and adventurous?

You know, in the past I would have given in to the fear and completely forgot about the wonderful sight, with the sea and the sky meeting each other! (I know I still miss a lot of the adventure and beauty in the world because many times I still let myself be kept prisoner of fear, but not yesterday.)

And becoming aware of this, I wondered… how many times do we feel something is about to shift in our life and we can even feel the excitement mixing up with fear and we HOLD ON to fences that are so freaking unstable?

 

How many times do we dare so little, holding on to fences which are so weak that wouldn't be able to hold you if you were to lean onto them?

How many times do we hold on to fences that really don't serve us anymore? Fences we keep fixing… we keep mending… out of fear!

You know, there comes a day that the fence that once kept us safe, will now keep us trapped inside! It may give us the illusion that being behind the fence is much better, much safer… but that’s just it – an illusion!

I remember the day I received my last pay check from school with ZERO euros on it! I had quit my job as a teacher after 23 years. There was not much of a plan except to keep moving and showing up for what I am really passionate about!

That day I was freaking out! My mind kept shouting at me “What the f*ck are you doing with your life?” and for 12 hours in a row I played the same song over and over again (UNSTOPPABLE by Sia)! I listened to and I sang for hours and hours straight! My hands were sweating; my heart was beating so fast! OMG!!! I was really freaking out, but I was not going back!!!! That day I made sure I surrounded myself with an empowering group of friends.

I remember one particular friend saying to me: “Awesome! Now you can shoot for the stars! The sky is the limit!”



That was it!!!! There was no more fence! No more hiding! No more playing small! I had removed the fence and now there were no more limits!! No more mending or fixing the fence, finding excuses to it, postponing decisions, blaming others and complaining about it… I had jumped and now all I had to do was to keep on flying and soar!

The summer-not-so-autumn Sunday...

The summer-not-so-autumn Sunday...

So, I wonder…

Is there a fence you are holding on to that doesn’t serve you anymore? Is there a fence you keep on mending and fixing?

So, I wonder…

What would it look like if you jumped? How exciting would your life be if you took the leap and started to fly? What would be possible for you without the fence? How exciting would your life be if you remembered that you are actually a free being capable of achieving every dream you dream?



Share your fences in the comments! I would love to read about them!

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How To Make A Change In Your Life

Have you been struggling with repetitive negative or destructive patterns? 
Is there something in your life you wish to change but you seem to never succeed?

In his book Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins suggests that you ask yourself some specific questions to help you make that change. Those were actually the questions I asked myself, leading me to some powerful breakthroughs uncovering the root cause of my weight battle. (I wrote about it here)


So, if you are ready to play, to sit down and put pen to paper… You know, you can read a book to learn how to swim but you won’t ever swim unless you get yourself inside water. 

Ok, you get it, right? So, here it goes. 

Answer these questions in this specific order. Tony Robbins says that it’s rally important to follow the order. He says it’s like dialing a friend - if you change the order of the numbers, you’ll end up calling someone else.

1)    What are two things that you need to do and you have been procrastinating on them?

2)    Why haven’t you acted upon them? What pain have you associated to this action in the past?

3)    What pleasure have you felt in the past by giving yourself into this negative pattern?

4)    What will be the price to pay if you don’t change now? What will it cost you over the next 2, 3, 5 years? What will it cost you emotionally? What about self-image? And about physical energy? Self-love? Financially? Romantic relationships? 

5)    How does that make you feel?

6)    What pleasure will you get if you act immediately?



I would love to read about what showed up for you. Would you like to share some insights you may have had? I would love to read them. Comment below and I'll get back to you.

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My Relationship With Weight

My battle with weight began when I was around 16. I have never been too obese but I was definitely overweight. No matter how many people would tell me I looked good, I didn’t feel good at all, either about the way I looked or about the way I felt.

I would engage in crazy gym challenges and diets and, needless to say, it only worked out for a short period of time. And then, everything would start all over again.

I won’t go into the guilt or the shame that battle brought along. That’s not the reason I’m writing this.

Back in 2015, I started doing some major spiritual and self-development healing work on myself and around that time, after hitting a threshold of physical pain in my joints, I could hear my body shouting out loud that it was time for a deep change. I could feel this time the decision was coming from a totally different place inside of me… I was certain I was going to change!

And I did! I started taking care of the food I would put inside my body and I started to feel awesome, lighter and more energised than ever. The joints pain completely disappeared and I could move my body in ways that I couldn’t do before. 

I was feeling AMAZING! Had I finally owned this? Was it really possible? I was so HAPPY!

In January 2017, I had a surgery to an epigastric hernia and it didn’t take long for me to realise I was going back to the old patterns and I was bullshitting myself with a bunch of excuses to eat some cookies late in the evening or even to have some chips twice a week.

My belly started getting bigger (I don’t know about you, but for me it’s always the belly!) and I would fool myself telling myself that it was due to the hernia surgery. 

There was a thought running over and over in my mind - “NOT AGAIN!”
And the more I heard it, the more I didn’t want to look at it and the more cookies I felt like eating. (By the way, I would make sure the cookies were the healthy kind of cookies, fooling myself that those were not a big deal.)

One day, with love, no judgement whatsoever, and as curious as I could be, I decided it was time to go deeper to find out the real root of this, since it was clear I was not healed yet. I knew that in this internal system of making decisions there should be a belief that was making me sabotage my outcome. 

Sitting outside, with the help of Tony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within, EUREKA!
I had a f*cking breakthrough, and then others followed! (Wow … multiple breakthroughs?! Oh… yes, there’s more than just multiple orgasms! ;) )



I realised I took a lot of pleasure out of the process of losing weight! It gave me a challenge to pursue and I would get an immense sense of accomplishment and big achievement in succeeding at losing weight. Now… guess what? For me to be able to engage in that achievement of losing weight, I would need to have weight to lose to begin with.  I would put on weight to engage in the process of being successful at losing it afterwards (how fucked up is that?!).



And then…another breakthrough! Succeeding at losing weight would make me feel really significant. As others would notice me and tell me “Oh, you lost weight!” or “Hum, you look thinner!”, instead, I would hear them say “you look awesome” or “you look pretty” and what that really meant was “I SEE YOU!”.



BOOOMMMM… another massive breakthrough hitting me hard!
I had created this belief that others would never see me, that I was unnoticeable! So, I ended up finding a way to have people looking at me and really see me!



You see, my sister, who is one year younger than me, she is so beautiful that as long as I can remember being a child, every time we would go anywhere with our parents, everybody would look at her and comment on how beautiful she was and how beautiful her eyes were. Hardly ever anyone would notice me and when they did, they would turn to me second place and say “oh…and you…you are beautiful too”. (Today I imagine myself showing them the finger! ;) )



I was only 2 or 3 years old (yes, I know… I have a great memory…and I can go even further back in time – amazing what babies can remember, right?) and that was how I perceived and experienced the events; that was the meaning I gave to them and from there I made a decision and soon a limiting belief was born.



And as time went by, life made sure to provide me enough evidence to prove me that I was right. I had become the creator of a self-fulfilling prophecy! 



Now that I uncovered the root cause, healing can finally begin!

Me and my sister :)

Me and my sister :)

If you are curious about the questions that helped me uncover this story, or if there’s something you want to change in your life, I share more in my other article

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The Question That Shaped My Life

Back in December 2016 I was at Tony Robbins’s six-day seminar in Florida, Date with Destiny and there I had A LOT of Breakthroughs. Another word for that would be Insight. For those of you who have not been to a TR event or haven’t heard much about him, the best thing you can do to understand what he is truly about is to watch the documentary I’m Not Your Guru on Netflix.

One of the countless things I’ve learned from Tony Robbins was that QUESTIONS determine your focus and what you focus on is what you experience and what you get from life.

So, today I want to tell you about a major aha moment I had with what he calls the PRIMARY QUESTION.

A Primary Question is a dominant question you ask yourself on a consistent basis and that filters your thinking (conscious and unconscious). It’s a question that pops up constantly across contexts. Even if you aren’t consciously aware of it, you believe that if you live by this question, you will feel ultimate success, pleasure and fulfilment.

Your identity is often tied to this question. You experience life through the lenses of it.

Now that you know what a primary question is, let me share with you what MY primary question has been for 44 years.

I have lived my life through the lens of this question - “How can I make this better?”.

For me, life, in all its areas, was always about improving, making better, making more effective, more inspirational, more impactful. I was always looking for ways to make anything, I mean, ANYTHING better.

The magical thing about having a “ahah” moment with Tony Robbins is that he always makes sure you find the higher intent behind any of your behaviour/decision/emotion. So I was able to, not only uncover that primary question, but also see both the benefits and the downsides of it.

As TR also teaches us, first let’s go for the upsides of that. What were the empowering effects that came about for asking that question? What did that question do for me?

Well, here’s what I found out! To consistently ask myself that question I believed that there’s always a better way; that there’s always space for improvement; that change is needed and that change is something positive. I learned not to settle, to become more creative, more determined and I grew up into a hungry and insatiable woman.

And what about the downsides? What did that cost me?

I must confess this was a very deep and emotional moment. When I was face to face with the truth of it, I cried as I became aware that I was always too hard on myself, always demanding too much from me; I didn’t enjoy being myself because I was always looking for ways to make ME better, and that means in some moments I was making ME wrong.

I would always try to “fix” others and make them better, as if there was anything wrong with them… Can you imagine how I have made people feel in the past? OMG, so many things I did wrong with my kids and my relationships. It’s a fact that what I did to myself I would do to others.

I know I did the best I could with the resources I had but it hurt like hell to think about the pain I caused, specially to my kids.

TR helped me find out WHY I had that as my primary question.

For some reason (well, like I said I had a lot of breakthroughs, so I know the reason, but I’ll tell you about that in another post) I had this belief that if I didn’t make things better, more inspirational, more impactful, etc., people wouldn’t notice me, I would be unseen, which means I would be ignored, which means I would be insignificant, which means I wouldn’t be loved.

What a scary frightened little girl there was living inside of me!

So now, I cherish and nurture that part of me, the scary one, the one looking for love and significance. And I also forgave myself for the pain I caused to my kids.

If we are always looking for ways to make things/people better, we are not allowing space for things/people to be just the way they are.

Many times, WE just want to be loved, THEY just want to be loved, I just want to be loved… unconditionally loved being imperfectly perfect. And there are moments that we just need to BE and not DO. After all, “are you a human being or a human doing?” (Tony Robbins)

So… I am so thrilled and excited to share with you my NEW Primary Question – “How can I appreciate even more the beauty and the perfection of what is in this present moment, trusting that I am always guided?”

Can you imagine how different my life will be having this question as a filtering lense?

Now, I’m curious to know…

What is a question you repeatedly ask yourself? What do you consistently focus on? What question do you ask most often based on this focus?

It’s my deepest wish that this story may help you in some way and I would love to know what your primary questions are. So, please leave your comments below.

And remember, YOU are imperfectly perfect.

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If Fear Was A Pokemon

How do you talk about FEAR to a 9-year-old?

The other day I had to talk about FEAR with my son and that demanded me to get creative. I could not definitely talk to him about Fear the way I talk to my clients. 

Gui (how we call him) came home after school feeling really scared. This was not usual and so I was curious about that and stayed watchful. And soon I found out that another boy from his class had taken a book to school which was about ghosts and horror stories. He was feeling so scared that he didn't even want to walk in the dark areas of the house. So, that evening I decided to join him as he was brushing his teeth before going to bed. I could see fear was really playing a big role that night and so I asked him in a very curious tone of voice:

- Gui, if fear was a Pokémon, what Pokémon would it be?

(Let me just add here that I know NOTHING about Pokémons except that he is CRAZY about that!)

He was kind of surprised with my question so I repeated it.

- "Gastly, mum". (of course that first I had to learn to say the name because he was saying it HIS way)

As I said before, I know nothing about Pokémons but I remembered something that could be really useful. Over the last years there's a word I've been correcting him on, because of the way he pronounces it, and that word is EVOLUTION. So, I knew that Pokémons have evolutions and that was just what I needed to talk to him about FEAR.

After exploring with him a bit of the story of "Gastly", the FEAR Pokémon, he told me its evolution was "Haunter" (a really suitable name, I might say!) and this also had another evolution, called "Gengar". Well, this post is not about Pokémons, but bear with me… there’s a lesson in here.

Now that I had gained his trust and I was really listening to a subject that he adores and to which I had never paid attention before, I had won the right and the space to do my own magic.

Does fear start really strong? Does fear evolves into a much stronger version of itself, like pókemons do? SURE! How? Feeding it, believing in it, allowing it to take control over our lives and from stopping us to take action on our dreams, our goals, or whatever it is that we want to do with or in our lives.

I heard Tony Robbins say at Unleash the Power Within, "kill the monster before it turns into a F**king Godzilla". And how do we kill the monster? Taking action! Feel the fear but do it anyway!

So, there I was, putting my boy to sleep but not before I ask him to pick up the Gameboy (or something of that type that his cousin lent him) and to show me those pókemons. He couldn’t believe what he was hearing… I could almost hear him thinking “my mum wants ME to play and SHE wants to see it?”

There he was… so excited as he was showing me the game I understand nothing of, and then I ask him:

- Gui, who decides if the Pokémon evolves or not? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- If the Pokémon has evolved to its last evolution, who is more powerful? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- Who is playing the game? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- Who has the power to shut this game off? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- The same with FEAR my son! You see it, you feel it but YOU are in charge, YOU are playing the game, not Fear. But, like the Pokémons, the more you feed it, the more attention you pay to it, the stronger it will become. We don't want Fear to become "Gengar"... we want to deal with fear while it's still "Gastly". And Gastly is an important Pokémon because it keeps you safe, it makes you be watchful as you cross the street, it keeps you away from the fire… so it’s a good thing.

If you could just see the look in his eyes and his face... HE GOT IT!
In less than a minute he was smiling, really courageous and empowered to go to a good night sleep, all by himself.

I kiss him goodnight, tell him I love him and as I’m leaving his room…

- Mum, can I change the name of the Pokémon? After all Fear is not that bad.


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Have You Loved Yourself Today?

Today I had a breakthrough! I have just experienced with full awareness how subtle this self-love thing can be and I wanted to share it with you! There's a chance that some part of this story may resonate with you and you can take out some value from it.

Last December I made great, awesome and unique friends at Tony Robbins' Date with Destiny in Florida, USA. (for those of you who don't know about Tony Robbins or if you even wonder what that event is about I would suggest that you watch "I am Not Your Guru" on Netflix.)

One of these amazing new friends, a phenomenal woman and so talented artist, Susie Suh, sent me all the way from the USA four essential oils to help me recover faster from an epigastric hernia surgery. When the oils arrived, she explained me what I needed to do to apply them. So, the only thing I needed was to get some carrier oil, like coconut or almond oil or even any other, blend it with some drops of the essential oils and massage my belly in the area where the hernia used to be.

Guess what?! It has been 6 days since those oils arrived and I haven’t applied them yet. Why not? “I don’t have the carrier oil”, I thought. “When I get it, I’ll do it!” And then I asked myself: “when are you going to buy it?”; “what are you waiting for?”

How come that woman, Susie, used her time and energy to go to the post office and send me those oils and I wouldn’t take 5 minutes to buy the carrier oil? Did she love me more than I loved myself? This questions made me tremble! Very often, things aren’t what they seem to be! I was hiding behind the excuse that I didn’t have the carrier oil, when in fact the truth is that I was not loving myself and making myself a priority. Why was that?

And that was when it hit me!

Even though I’ve walked a long path on this healing journey of loving myself, this is a daily process and I can’t take it for granted or as something I can be distracted from. I need to be present! I need to be mindful and to daily remind myself to love myself …

Being naïvely distracted from my own self is a recipe for disaster. I need to stand guard at the door of my mind while taking care of my inner garden, otherwise weeds will grow.

In the past, every time I engaged in any behaviour that would make me feel important or loved, even if it was just a glimpse of it, guilt and blame would be riding the thoughts “who the hell do you think you are?”; “what?! Do you think you’re special?” or “what do you think makes you so fucking special?”… and it would go on and on and on…

The truth is that I wanted so badly to be loved ... So I thought I had to stay low, to be less, to play small, and without even knowing it, I was annihilating myself so deeply that my soul started aching.

Because Life is a wonderful teacher, it keeps bringing me all sorts of different situations so that I understand how important I am and that there’s nothing wrong about it.

Life keeps showing me that there’s no reason to feel guilty for making myself a priority and for feeling that I am important and that I do matter.

Life keeps showing me that if I think I’m not important nothing else will ever be.

Every time I neglect my own needs and every time I don’t love myself, I suffer. And from that suffering place, I judge others, I get angry, I get frustrated, I doubt my own capacities, my own strengths, my own inner power, my own inner voice, my soul, my spirit.

And that’s when fear kicks in! That’s when the mind starts to rule my life; that’s when the mind kicks the heart out and runs over it, shutting its voice, its truth, its wisdom.

True Wisdom and True Love live only in the heart, not in the mind!

How can I think anyone else is more important than me, if we are all connected? We are not separate!

It all begins with me and in me! I need to be the change I want to see in the world and that’s why I am 100% committed into loving myself, cherish myself and honour myself, and that means loving myself unconditionally, with the shadow and light that live within me.

Fully committed in loving myself so that I can love others, I went to buy the carrier oil and all it took was 5 minutes of my time and 1,14 euros. 

What about you? Have you loved yourself today?

Let me know in the comments if this resonates with you in any point. I would love to read it!

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Life After Destroying A Limiting Belief

I'm having a BOLDNESS HANGOVER today!

This is LIFE after DESTROYING a LIMITING BELIEF!

Have you ever done something totally out of anything you would ever imagine you could do and then afterwards you go and think "I can't believe what I just did?". Well, that's me today!

For you to understand why this was so much out of what I thought was possible for me to do, last April I went to London to one of Tony Robbins' events called Unleash the Power Within (UPW) and there we worked around 2 or 3 limiting beliefs.

Well, one of those limiting beliefs was -"Nothing of what I say has any value". I need to let you know that I needed to check the handbook of the event because the DICKENS PROCESS EXERCISE (I'll tell you this story some other time!), just destroyed it completely and I couldn't access it in my brain.

Well, guess what? Life does change when you destroy your limiting beliefs! Yesterday evening I was on a webinar being interviewed by a fellow FIREWALKER Ben Colley, with the purpose to inspire other women.

Yesterday I SPOKE UP and there were people who wanted to listen to me and my story. I am now free ! And I also realise now that our story is not ours to keep, otherwise it won't serve anyone in this world. 

This was quite a raw, open and authentic interview !

Just know and be certain that once a limiting belief is destroyed, your LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN ! Tony Robbins, Amen ! <

BE AUTHENTIC ! 

You can watch the interview here