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If Fear Was A Pokemon

How do you talk about FEAR to a 9-year-old?

The other day I had to talk about FEAR with my son and that demanded me to get creative. I could not definitely talk to him about Fear the way I talk to my clients. 

Gui (how we call him) came home after school feeling really scared. This was not usual and so I was curious about that and stayed watchful. And soon I found out that another boy from his class had taken a book to school which was about ghosts and horror stories. He was feeling so scared that he didn't even want to walk in the dark areas of the house. So, that evening I decided to join him as he was brushing his teeth before going to bed. I could see fear was really playing a big role that night and so I asked him in a very curious tone of voice:

- Gui, if fear was a Pokémon, what Pokémon would it be?

(Let me just add here that I know NOTHING about Pokémons except that he is CRAZY about that!)

He was kind of surprised with my question so I repeated it.

- "Gastly, mum". (of course that first I had to learn to say the name because he was saying it HIS way)

As I said before, I know nothing about Pokémons but I remembered something that could be really useful. Over the last years there's a word I've been correcting him on, because of the way he pronounces it, and that word is EVOLUTION. So, I knew that Pokémons have evolutions and that was just what I needed to talk to him about FEAR.

After exploring with him a bit of the story of "Gastly", the FEAR Pokémon, he told me its evolution was "Haunter" (a really suitable name, I might say!) and this also had another evolution, called "Gengar". Well, this post is not about Pokémons, but bear with me… there’s a lesson in here.

Now that I had gained his trust and I was really listening to a subject that he adores and to which I had never paid attention before, I had won the right and the space to do my own magic.

Does fear start really strong? Does fear evolves into a much stronger version of itself, like pókemons do? SURE! How? Feeding it, believing in it, allowing it to take control over our lives and from stopping us to take action on our dreams, our goals, or whatever it is that we want to do with or in our lives.

I heard Tony Robbins say at Unleash the Power Within, "kill the monster before it turns into a F**king Godzilla". And how do we kill the monster? Taking action! Feel the fear but do it anyway!

So, there I was, putting my boy to sleep but not before I ask him to pick up the Gameboy (or something of that type that his cousin lent him) and to show me those pókemons. He couldn’t believe what he was hearing… I could almost hear him thinking “my mum wants ME to play and SHE wants to see it?”

There he was… so excited as he was showing me the game I understand nothing of, and then I ask him:

- Gui, who decides if the Pokémon evolves or not? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- If the Pokémon has evolved to its last evolution, who is more powerful? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- Who is playing the game? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- Who has the power to shut this game off? You or the Pokémon?

- Me, mum!

- The same with FEAR my son! You see it, you feel it but YOU are in charge, YOU are playing the game, not Fear. But, like the Pokémons, the more you feed it, the more attention you pay to it, the stronger it will become. We don't want Fear to become "Gengar"... we want to deal with fear while it's still "Gastly". And Gastly is an important Pokémon because it keeps you safe, it makes you be watchful as you cross the street, it keeps you away from the fire… so it’s a good thing.

If you could just see the look in his eyes and his face... HE GOT IT!
In less than a minute he was smiling, really courageous and empowered to go to a good night sleep, all by himself.

I kiss him goodnight, tell him I love him and as I’m leaving his room…

- Mum, can I change the name of the Pokémon? After all Fear is not that bad.

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Have You Loved Yourself Today?

Today I had a breakthrough! I have just experienced with full awareness how subtle this self-love thing can be and I wanted to share it with you! There's a chance that some part of this story may resonate with you and you can take out some value from it.

Last December I made great, awesome and unique friends at Tony Robbins' Date with Destiny in Florida, USA. (for those of you who don't know about Tony Robbins or if you even wonder what that event is about I would suggest that you watch "I am Not Your Guru" on Netflix.)

One of these amazing new friends, a phenomenal woman and so talented artist, Susie Suh, sent me all the way from the USA four essential oils to help me recover faster from an epigastric hernia surgery. When the oils arrived, she explained me what I needed to do to apply them. So, the only thing I needed was to get some carrier oil, like coconut or almond oil or even any other, blend it with some drops of the essential oils and massage my belly in the area where the hernia used to be.

Guess what?! It has been 6 days since those oils arrived and I haven’t applied them yet. Why not? “I don’t have the carrier oil”, I thought. “When I get it, I’ll do it!” And then I asked myself: “when are you going to buy it?”; “what are you waiting for?”

How come that woman, Susie, used her time and energy to go to the post office and send me those oils and I wouldn’t take 5 minutes to buy the carrier oil? Did she love me more than I loved myself? This questions made me tremble! Very often, things aren’t what they seem to be! I was hiding behind the excuse that I didn’t have the carrier oil, when in fact the truth is that I was not loving myself and making myself a priority. Why was that?

And that was when it hit me!

Even though I’ve walked a long path on this healing journey of loving myself, this is a daily process and I can’t take it for granted or as something I can be distracted from. I need to be present! I need to be mindful and to daily remind myself to love myself …

Being naïvely distracted from my own self is a recipe for disaster. I need to stand guard at the door of my mind while taking care of my inner garden, otherwise weeds will grow.

In the past, every time I engaged in any behaviour that would make me feel important or loved, even if it was just a glimpse of it, guilt and blame would be riding the thoughts “who the hell do you think you are?”; “what?! Do you think you’re special?” or “what do you think makes you so fucking special?”… and it would go on and on and on…

The truth is that I wanted so badly to be loved ... So I thought I had to stay low, to be less, to play small, and without even knowing it, I was annihilating myself so deeply that my soul started aching.

Because Life is a wonderful teacher, it keeps bringing me all sorts of different situations so that I understand how important I am and that there’s nothing wrong about it.

Life keeps showing me that there’s no reason to feel guilty for making myself a priority and for feeling that I am important and that I do matter.

Life keeps showing me that if I think I’m not important nothing else will ever be.

Every time I neglect my own needs and every time I don’t love myself, I suffer. And from that suffering place, I judge others, I get angry, I get frustrated, I doubt my own capacities, my own strengths, my own inner power, my own inner voice, my soul, my spirit.

And that’s when fear kicks in! That’s when the mind starts to rule my life; that’s when the mind kicks the heart out and runs over it, shutting its voice, its truth, its wisdom.

True Wisdom and True Love live only in the heart, not in the mind!

How can I think anyone else is more important than me, if we are all connected? We are not separate!

It all begins with me and in me! I need to be the change I want to see in the world and that’s why I am 100% committed into loving myself, cherish myself and honour myself, and that means loving myself unconditionally, with the shadow and light that live within me.

Fully committed in loving myself so that I can love others, I went to buy the carrier oil and all it took was 5 minutes of my time and 1,14 euros. 

What about you? Have you loved yourself today?

Let me know in the comments if this resonates with you in any point. I would love to read it!

If you are a WOMAN and you would like to be part of an outstanding TRIBE of women from all over the world, ask to join Evolved Women Tribe . There you’ll also find a place for massive growth and evolvement, as well as honoring the Divine Feminine.

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Life After Destroying A Limiting Belief

I'm having a BOLDNESS HANGOVER today!


Have you ever done something totally out of anything you would ever imagine you could do and then afterwards you go and think "I can't believe what I just did?". Well, that's me today!

For you to understand why this was so much out of what I thought was possible for me to do, last April I went to London to one of Tony Robbins' events called Unleash the Power Within (UPW) and there we worked around 2 or 3 limiting beliefs.

Well, one of those limiting beliefs was -"Nothing of what I say has any value". I need to let you know that I needed to check the handbook of the event because the DICKENS PROCESS EXERCISE (I'll tell you this story some other time!), just destroyed it completely and I couldn't access it in my brain.

Well, guess what? Life does change when you destroy your limiting beliefs! Yesterday evening I was on a webinar being interviewed by a fellow FIREWALKER Ben Colley, with the purpose to inspire other women.

Yesterday I SPOKE UP and there were people who wanted to listen to me and my story. I am now free ! And I also realise now that our story is not ours to keep, otherwise it won't serve anyone in this world. 

This was quite a raw, open and authentic interview !

Just know and be certain that once a limiting belief is destroyed, your LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN ! Tony Robbins, Amen ! <


You can watch the interview here